apotheotic (she/her)

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  • When I was a teen, the girl that I loved with all my heart told me that my behaviours were (emotionally and psychologically) hurting her. I shouldn’t have needed to be told, but I’m thankful that I was. Lots of therapy and introspection to get myself away from being that kind of person, and onto a better path. I learned to take responsibility and accountability for my actions, and to bring open and honest communication to the forefront of any relationship, romantic or otherwise.

    I don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive myself for the harm I caused her, or if I should. All I can do is ensure that I am never again that version of myself.





  • You should do workouts that align with your workout goals. If you’re a man and you wanna do workouts that are gonna give you a dump truck ass and juicy thighs then fucking go for it. If you’re a woman and you wanna do workouts that are gonna give you a body like Schwarzenegger, fucking go for it! If you wanna do workouts that are gonna do very little for your physical appearance but leave you fitter and healthier, do those!

    Your workout plans should align with your workout goals, and your workout goals shouldn’t be dictated by what someone else thinks isn’t appropriate for your gender.




  • It’s tricky to say. Organised religion throughout history has been one of the biggest oppressive machines and cause of untold human life lost. On the flip side, religion has been the source (or at least financer) of an enormous amount of the most highly regarded artistry in our history.

    The reason that isn’t an obvious tip of the scale, is that if religion poofed out of existence, I’m almost certain that the oppressive machine would have just taken another form and still caused untold destruction, loss of life, and hatred. But I’m not sure the art would have still thrived as it did.





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    16 days ago

    You’re perfectly entitled to not want to have sex with anyone based on any criteria you choose. Your body, your choice.

    You are not entitled to filter transgender wo/men out of a “wo/men” category, as to do so fundamentally implies that they are not wo/men.

    Now, if we’re talking about allowing people using dating apps to filter based on finer grained criteria, I’m all on board. If you choose to match with women, then trans women and cis women should all be captured by that filter. But if they add the ability to filter down to “women AND afab people” where all criteria must be met, then you can have your desired category.

    But if we are going to do that, then I’d ask to also have a category to filter out people who have filtered out transgender people, because as a transgender person that’s obviously not gonna work. And many non-trans queer folk may want to also filter out people who filter out trans people, since queer folk tend to have a much more open approach to gender in dating in my experience and that’s not so compatible with someone who doesn’t.

    Buuuuuuut… Dating apps don’t care about letting users filter down to such a granular level, because a large portion of their business model relies on people swiping for ages to find people that meet their criteria (or! Buy our premium package and unlock better filters! Which won’t work very well because people haven’t filled their profiles in to that degree!). So you’re probably stuck with trans folk in your feed, and they’re stuck with you. Lose lose.

    Also, no human being is obligated to share what their assigned gender at birth was with any dating app. So even if we had these filters, a bunch of cis folk are probably just going to mark themselves as their gender, and a bunch of trans folk are gonna do the same(especially as outing yourself as trans can be horrendously dangerous in some situations), and neither will mark down their assigned gender at birth. And then the “assigned gender at birth” filter is gonna be somewhat worthless to the people who want to use it.

    So maybe the best option is just to keep swiping past people who you think are unattractive (which might include some trans people).