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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • I had ‘a little’ thinning back in 2013, and immediately went fully bald shaving my head 3x a week since then. Our appearances and acceptance of it depends on your ability to come to terms, identify and personify with the truth of the matter and your decisions.

    I had thinning. I said fuck it and told myself how I would identify, instead of letting my genetics get the better part of me. I was in my early 20s. I’ve been bald since and when people know you as bald, they don’t judge you like people who knew you with hair.

    Go all in, make it who you are, stop caring about hair, and people, and their opinions (if they matter), will follow. (That being said, don’t be bald with a stache, unless you’re ready for that kind of judgement. In my field it’s pretty common, and so are the ‘pedo stache’ jokes. You just have to ignore them. For clarity, I’m bald with a mustache.)




  • We usually keep a 3-dog pack at home, two small dogs (25-35 lbs) and one medium dog (65 lbs). The big boy with the bassy bark to deter break-ins and scare away harassers for my wife when she’s walking them, and the two smaller owns so we can manage a pack that everyone has friends in.

    Our youngest is such a bundle of love and joy… I think we’ll get 10 more years out of him, at least. He’s four. We got him after the one that died from the bowel obstruction.

    It’s rough, but in a few months my wife will probably want to get another medium sized boy, and she’ll check the pounds. I think it took us 3 months to replace the first one.


  • Lost a dog to lymphoma. The whole week prior he was mostly not eating, his back legs were swollen up, and he was having even more trouble standing up and walking. Saturday I woke up and found him under the guest bed laying in a puddle of blood, I cleaned everything up while my wife called vets and then researched an at-home euthanasia. He was 9, a pitlab mix. I figured the mix in him would make him healthy, but he died so young. I lost my last one to a bowel obstruction in 2020, he was 11 or 12. The next one’s 11 right now, but going strong. Watch the universe take him 2028, that’d be every 4 years right now…

    Anyway, back to work tomorrow, so hey… the wheel keeps on turnin’.
















  • Her emergency from piss pour planning, and attempts to circumvent SOP, regulation, and security protocol are not my problem, especially when she failed to do any of the multiple things in the situation correctly, and instead tried to burden me with her problem. On my off day. When she, more than likely at this point because it has been ages and I can’t recall, either lost or had stolen her controlled access badge to a high security area.

    For that specific situation, she should have been roasted alive. Instead, I provided her with the SOP required paperwork… on my off day… (that she didn’t end up using because she sweet talked the guard into giving her access.) She should have been grateful, instead of attempting to roast me to her peers who were significantly more capable, independent and intelligent than she was.

    Regardless of that specific incident, I’m teaching 20 year olds to use other resources than their superiors, especially 2-3 echelons up, to fast track their problems. She shouldn’t have reached out to me to begin with.

    So, ‘joy to work with’ jokes aside, in this case I’m a manager, a trainer, a teacher, a career developer.

    I take kids who barely graduated high school and give them useful skills, show them levels of responsibility that they can see the fruit of their work from, teach kids who couldn’t figure out how to Google ‘why is the sky blue’ how to run a 5-7 man teams in either tactical or logistical projects. Giving them a sense of self worth and confidence in their ability to stand on their own two feet, and also showing them the worth of finding out the answers to questions on your own, before seeking assistance from above, and what routes to take when doing so.

    Sometimes I’m an asshole, sometimes I’m that older guy who makes dumb jokes that are 10-15 years too old for them. But, there’s a reason for everything I do. A little LMGTFY may be snarky, but you have to understand after the 3rd or 4th time showing them how to find an answer, this or other similar options works.

    If that one person, from the lost badge incident, doesn’t listen, never grows up or becomes more capable in her field and always blames everyone around her or above her for her problems? That’s not someone I want as a member of my team or organization.